tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3591298.post7813431296860661947..comments2023-07-09T01:48:47.511-06:00Comments on (usually barefoot) meg: Adam Grant's, "The Bad Habits of Good Negotiators"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3591298.post-77674047539386707712013-06-05T11:57:28.259-06:002013-06-05T11:57:28.259-06:00My mother was like that too - always chatting in s...My mother was like that too - always chatting in shops. Well, you know the old saying that we turn into our parents? I don't just go into a little shop now and buy and leave. I know most Spanish people don't either. Sometimes I find it hard to believe how much they enjoy talking. If it gets you something extra... or even a discount.brendainmadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15680620984412256706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3591298.post-66625379299412014542013-06-05T07:46:21.791-06:002013-06-05T07:46:21.791-06:00Nodding vigorously... because, like you, I tend to...Nodding vigorously... because, like you, I tend to get task-focused and not see the point in these niceties - being friendly and chatty is not what I'm there for, is it, I'm there to achieve a certain goal (like getting a coffee and finding a seat) and to me friendly chat could be distracting. Like when the cashiers at the supermarket try to make conversation whilst I'm packing my stuff, I find it hard to do both at the same time, I need to concentrate on what I'm doing.<br /><br />But, though it doesn't come naturally to me, I totally see the value in that trust-building stuff, the sharing something of yourself as a kind of gesture of mutual humanness - it's like you're saying: hi, I'm human, I'm not just some anonymous customer and I'm not treating you like some kind of machine.<br /><br />My experience of different cultures tells me that this is something that will work well if you know the culture you're in, but could backfire if people feel you're oversharing or being inappropriately friendly. Like here in the UK it's perfectly reasonable (and even expected) to have a certain level of friendly chat with the cashier at the supermarket, but on my recent visit home I noticed that they don't talk to the customers at all - we're a more brash culture, with less niceties.<br /><br />oops, I'm rambling. why does this box feel more ramble-friendly than the G+ comment box? hmmm...Meirav M. (Berale)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00067487655119966525noreply@blogger.com